Accept the things you cannot change, change the things you cannot accept. We've all heard the phrase. It's catchy - rolls right off the tongue.
But have we thought about what the phrase insinuates? What it's saying?
There are things in life that we have to accept. They are the way they are and there's little we can do to change them. So just let it be. There are other things in life that lend themselves to choice. Individual, free choice. We can choose this or that when it comes to these things, they're slightly more forgiving.
What I want to talk about, is those things that are open to choice, to change, but not in the present moment. You can manipulate the outcome of these things, but not now. You've got to give the choice time to materialize fully.
Good things take time. Another phrase we're all familiar with. Any truth to that one? I believe it. Even those things that appear to happen instantaneously, they still take time in the grande scheme of your life, in the grande scheme of the universe. All life's events are suspended in a linear order. They will all happen, just as they should, in the time that they're intended. Don't fret, for they're in the works.
I can say don't fret, but who am I kidding? I fret like a perfectionist who coloured outside the lines. It's hard to calm your consciousness down - slow it down, tell it to relax. It doesn't want to listen. It's stubborn and hard-headed. When it creates worries and anxieties, you're going to know.
What I want to tell you, is that those worries and anxieties, that are going to surface no matter what, don't mean this has to be a bad day, let alone a bad life. They're worries and anxieties. We all have them. Without them, would we have drive and desire? Would we strive for the things we want? I want to help people. That's what I want to do with my life. My biggest anxiety, my most hard-pressed worry, is that my own unhealthy coping mechanisms, my own mental turmoil, will prevent me from doing this. My own perplexed mind will halt me from helping others work through their inner conflicts. I know it's what I'm meant to do. I want to help others breathe deeply, connect with themselves and the universe, feel whole and grounded. I want to help them know themselves individually, as a unique being on this planet. I also want to help them understand that their authentic self fits in, they belong. Holistic healing. Yoga. Communicating. Being outdoors. Acceptance. This is how I want to help. I know this is how I am destined to help. I have to follow my own path. I know my path.
Yes, I know my path, however, I am forced to accept that I have more self-knowing to do before I'm able to help others on the level I wish to. Good things take time. My path has been lit. I'm just not done meandering down this avenue before I can turn onto the next street. I have had to accept that my YTT will have to wait. I must make my own health and happiness my priority. In the pursuit of helping others, I've let my ability to help myself waver. It's time to shift my focus to self-love. It is only once we love and appreciate ourselves, that we can truly help others see their beauty and potential. I have faith that this fresh endeavour will further equip me to accomplish my goals when the time is right.
Accept the things you cannot change. My path is lit. Change the things you cannot accept. My health and happiness have dimmed and I must re-ignite my inner fire. Good things take time. I mustn't rush, everything will happen, just as it should, in the time it's intended.
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