Fear. Fear is the first word to come to mind when I think about impending big changes. I’m not speaking of the little nit-picky changes that each of us deal with on the daily, taking a different route to work because of construction, cooking the dogs rice in the morning because I forgot to pick up their food. I’m talking about changes that make you reevaluate, struggle and improvise. I’m talking about changes that force you to grow, whether you want to or not.
Yes, just thinking of these changes invokes fear inside of me. It makes me postulate and ruminate and ponder and question and worry. Change has me shaking in my boots. The stem of this fear is the unknown. I can’t possibly know what change will bring to the table. I have no idea what is going to happen once change begins to manifest. So why the f*ck do we do it!? Why do we open ourselves to change? Why do we deal with change? Why do we sometimes search for change!?
The answer, I think, is because it’s inevitable. We don’t get a say in change. It happens when it’s supposed to, it happens when it has to, it happens in the manner it sees fit. And there ain’t nothing we can do about it! Seriously though. It’s going to come, it’s going to weasel its way into my life, your life, our lives and it’s going to make itself known. When we fight the inevitable we’re asking for trouble. If you want to resist change, you best be ready to lace up your boxing gloves and jump in the ring. But really there’s no point in facing that opponent because you’ll lose. You’ll lose every damn time.
There’s this little gem of a saying, “feel the fear and do it anyway.” You have to accept that change is inevitable and along with that accept that fear is normal and necessary and moving. Fear will activate you. It will empower you. It will give you the strength to take the hits and to keep swinging. Fear has to accompany change. Fear is changes spouse. Don’t fear, fear. Fear is going to get you through. Fear is going to make change happen and then fade, happen and fade, happen and fade. It’s going to be the constant. I encourage you to develop a loving relationship with fear. Learn to trust that it will always be there for you, warning you of threats, preparing you for new ventures, mobilizing your energy and pushing you forward. Fear is going to stabilize you during change.
There are big changes on the horizon and I am absolutely terrified of what that means. Terrified but also content and excited. I’m going to trust that fear will carry me in the right direction. It will guide me through the fog of change.
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